Question

Which sentence is an effective example of I-language?

A."You need to do your chores."
B."I've told you a million times to take out the trash."
C."I wish you'd do your chores when I ask you to."
D."I don't like having to remind you about your chores."

Answer 1

The most effective example of I-Language is C. “I wish you’d do your chores when I ask you to.”

The I-language is a type of language that refers to the internal or internalized knowledge the speaker has. It represents the language that is perceived or understood by the speaker instead of the one that is transmitted to other people. In this case, the word “wish” stands for an internal desire of the speaker that is not explicitly directed to the interlocutor.    

Answer 2

Answer: The correct answer is C.

Explanation:

     The "I"language is a way of expressing feelings, thoughts, desires or goals in a non-aggresive way.  When using this type of statements, people won't feel defensive and they are going to be open to listen. It's a way of expressing yourself being polite, honest and clear.

       In the first two examples of this question, the statements don't show the speaker is being nice, the first one is an order and the second one shows a reproach.  Neither of them are advised to use in "I"language.

       In the last statement, the speaker is telling the other person what he doesn’t like from the very beginning. It may sound rude to the other person so he may act defensively.

       In the correct statement, the use of the word “wish” at the beginning shows a desire, not an order or reproach. It’s polite and the listener will be more open to listen. This sentence is an example of effective “I” language.